by Laura Weston
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17 April 2021
Children decide about money and their approach towards money by about age seven, so really you want to be talking to them when they're around four or five, and then build that up, so that by the time they get to age seven, they have a good understanding about where money comes from, what it looks like and how to use it. The first thing you can talk to them about is ‘Where does money come from?’ As parents it’s our duty to explain Where money comes from because unless you have that conversation children will just assume it just appears. A great way to do this is to tell them when you're going off to work, why you're going off to work, and what that means. ‘I'm going to be in the office and the reason I work is because it pays for the things we have in our house. It pays for the nice things we have in our life. And so if Mommy doesn't work, then we won't have the money, and we won't be able to have those nice things around us’. To keep that communication open is really going to make it clear to children, and they certainly pick up on absolutely everything you're saying, so just carry on explaining everything you’re doing and why with them. The next thing is to explain to them how you can access money. I'm very conscious in this day and age, that children probably just see us using our cards in shops or in an actual fact my children see me using my phone or watch, far more than actually a card let alone cash. With this in mind it’s really important that you ask them at the time of paying for things, ‘what do you think this is doing’, ‘where do you think this money is coming from’, ‘how am I paying for this shopping’, and then explaining to them, when I tap this card, it takes money from my bank account, my bank account is where all of my money is held. Allowing them to understand that link, so they don't grow up thinking you get this special card and you have an endless supply of money. Now I know in time that they will find out that that's not true, but the sooner you can give them that message, the better. At this point, it's quite important to share with them, why we use things like contactless payments, or your phone or your watch, because cash is a risk. As we move into the next few years, I envisage us being a cashless society. So as well as showing them what cash looks like, but showing them the electronic form and cash can still be used in the same way. Next up is opening the conversation around importance of money, if you can explain to them within your family life and your household, why money is important, what it allows you to have, what & how it drives your behaviours within your family. Then aligning this with the understanding that money is not the be all and end all, there are lots of really important things within our family that are also just as important; spending quality time together, having lots of fun, having that love and interaction and physical touch, showing each other kindness and affection. Putting money into that same group of all those other important things would just help them realise that money is just as important as some of those other things that you may well already have spoken to them about. Lastly, I think it’s really powerful if you could explain to them how they can gain money. How can they earn more money, how can they gain more money, and that's for you to decide within your family. Educating them that you can go out to work, you could sell something, you could offer a service, or maybe you’ll choose to offer pocket money. Once you've spoken to them about how they can gain money explain to them what they can do with that money. I find it easy for children to understand is if you draw them three buckets and you explain that some of their money could go in to those buckets; a small, medium and large bucket. In the first bucket is just for them to spend in the short term, so if they want to treat themselves by some Lego, buy some toys maybe buy some sweets, then that's for them to spend, immediately as they get it, or within, let's say the first few weeks. Then the second bucket which is slightly bigger your medium bucket is for them to save up for something in particular, something that requires 3-6 months to save. Then lastly the big longer term bucket. Now it might be that they don't want to start filling their long term bucket right now because let's face it, they're not going to know about retirement and costs into adulthood like buying cars and things like that. So you might like to say to them that your family will be filling that long term bucket for you, and it might be that you won't get to see that for a little while until you're an adult, but at the very least you have shared with them how they can segment their money and save up for things just to start them off with that really good ethos around how they are separating their money. As a re-cap, the main thing is to get this topic talked about on a regular basis within your household…..share how money works, draw it back to when you're working and earning money and how you're spending money and how you're budgeting for different things within your household. As long as you're getting the money within conversations going within your family then that's a great starting place.